When I was younger, I thought that boys and grown men shouldn ’t cry. Tears were a sign ofbeing weak, ___61___ a man isn’t supposed to be. 

However, last June I ___62___ that courage isn’t all about trying to keep all the pain___63___ and trying to hide the ___64___. My 18-year-old sister had eloped ( 私奔) and then Isaw how ___65___ my father’s heart was. We were used to ___66___ him as a strong-willedfather. 

For three days he wouldn’t ___67___. He would just sit ___68___ outside our house in thedark. ___69___ the fourth night, I sat beside him and ___70___ him to tell me what he felt abouteverything. __71___ many years I haven’t put my hand on my father’s shoulder as we have drifted(疏远) further and further apart while I was growing up. That night we had all cried ___72___what happened except my father. I sensed my father trying to ___73___ his pain and I wanted himto ___74___ it. 

I touched my father and said, “Dad, it’s not your ___75___ .” He began to cry. I ___76___his shoulders shaking as he whispered. “Where did I go wrong? All I ever wanted was for mychildren to grow up ___77___. Why shouldn’t your sister wait?” 

I understood then ___78___ he preferred to be in the dark. His tears, though we hadn ’t seen___79___ before that night, were there all the time. I saw his courage that night ___80___ myfather cried with my hand on his shoulder, and understood his pain.

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